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Are "Toxic" people abusing or exploiting your good nature?
Are you in a relationship which undermines your self-confidence + self-esteem?
Are you aware of potential partners to avoid when dating?
Are you looking for passionate infatuation, love, romance or a soul-mate?

Toxic people are friends, family, partner, husband, wife or work colleagues
who persistently do any of these abusive or manipulative things:

• Constant demands
• Constantly putting you down or criticising you - nothing you do is ever good enough
• Ignore what you say or do - act as if you do not exist!
• Take up more than their fair share of attention, conversation or physical "space"
• Talk "about" you, rather than "to" you
• Spread gossip or rumours that undermine you
• Express in actions, words, tone of voice or body language that you are stupid, ignorant, incompetent or defective. No-one is any of these things all the time - No, not even you! Everyone deserves a break and some compassion for goodness sake.
• Make undermining comments about your past errors or shortcomings - giving constant reminders that diminish and denying you any "fresh slate", "fresh start" or acknowledgment of your efforts, intentions or progress towards change.
• Drain you of energy, time and other resources, by their constant need for help, advice, sympathy, information, confidence-boosting, rescuing, emotional or financial support, or their "clingy" dependency.
• Bully you, manipulate you, pressurize you, or encourage you to have feelings of guilt, inadequacy or inferiority.
• Make poisonous remarks that leave you feeling guilty, wounded or traumatized.
• Lie to you, deceive you or steal from you
• Damage the things that you value - possessions, relationships, your ethical or spiritual values
• Do not allow you to live you own life your own way, with your own beliefs.

Ensuring that WE are not behaving in toxic ways, or unconsciously attracting harmful relationships, is of course also important!

Sometimes mutually-toxic relationships grow-up between 2 or more people (a family, group of friends or workmates) and the toxic interactions stimulate and energetically feed on each other. What superfically appears as "fun" or "funny" interactions/banter/practical jokes/teasing may actually conceal words or actions which are very destructive or mindlessly cruel.

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Who is the Devil you Know?   -   Is there a Sociopath in Your Life?

This is an astonishing, chilling and appallingly useful guide to recognising conscienceless individuals. Everyone knows what a sociopathathic personality is - A sociopath is "Hannibal Lecter" - a cold, calculating monster who has no compunction, no sense that what he or she does is wrong. No conscience, no higher self! An inhuman and often violent criminal. Wrong! Hannibal Lecter is a sociopath, for sure - but sociopaths are no more Hannibal Lecter than dogs are all called "Spot". The lying, cheating ex., the boss who loves to humiliate people in meetings. The colleague who steals ideas and passes them off as their own. A shocking 4% per cent of ordinary people have an undetected mental disorder, the chief symptom of which is that that person possesses no conscience. They can do literally anything at all and feel absolutely no guilt. One of the chief characteristics of someone with a sociopathic trait is a charisma that makes them more charming or interesting to others - and hence tricky to identify. Sociopaths learn early on to sham emotion, but underneath they are indifferent to others' suffering, they live to dominate and to win. They are often quite fearless and can make formidable, but merciless, soldiers, or even nurses! A sociopathic Doctor became the greatest mass murderer in UK history! Statistically, you are sure to know, or have met, at least one sociopathic personality, if not more. Sociopathic tendencies may be found in a man, woman or child and tend to be worse under stress, or in situations where there is excessive personal power - wars tend to bring out particularly shocking examples of sociopathic behaviour. There is no need to get paranoid or punitive when we meet these folks, some are worse than others, and most just do not know how else to live - ultimately, like all of us, they will "reap what they sow"! In this manual, Dr. Martha Stout uncovers the hidden signs of the sociopath's antisocial behavior, teaching readers to question authority, be suspicious of flattery and beware "pity plays" that can unbalance you. Everyone has been sucked into their game at some point - now at last this book shows a way out! CLICK BOOK IMAGE FOR SPECIAL WORLD-WIDE DISCOUNT & FREE DELIVERY OFFER Amazon order & reviews pages: USA     Canada     U.K. & Europe (all deliver worldwide)

 

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Home or Work involvement with someone suffering from "Borderline Personality Disorder"?

People with Borderline Personality Disorder experience such violent and frightening mood swings that they often fear for their sanity. They can be euphoric one moment, despairing and depressed the next. A not-uncommon problem with common symptoms: Fragile sense of identity Sudden violent outbursts Oversensitivity to real or imagined rejection Brief, turbulent love affairs Frequent periods of intense depression Eating disorders, drug abuse Self-destructive tendencies An irrational fear of abandonment Inability to be alone For years BPD was difficult to describe, diagnose, andtreat. But now health writer Dr. Kreismanand Hal Straus offer much-neededprofessional advice, helping victims and their familiesto understand and cope with this troubling,shockingly widespread affliction. Amazon order & reviews pages: USA     Canada     U.K. & Europe (all deliver worldwide)

How can we Avoid or Change "Toxic" Relationships?

Some helpful, key guides to changing bad or poor quality relationships are:   Build a Robust Sense of Personal Boundaries & Core Values: Self-Esteem Enhancement Tips "Toxic People: 10 Ways of Dealing with People who Make Your Life Miserable" by Lillian Glass (USA   Canada   U.K. & Europe) "Toxic Relationships and How to Change Them: Health and Holiness in Everyday Life" by Clinton McLemore (USA & International   Canada   UK (Europe)) "Safe People - How to Find Relationships that are Good for You and Avoid Those that Aren't" by Henry Cloud & Dr John Townsend (USA & International   Canada   UK (Europe)) Soul Retrieval Work - Shamanic healing

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Soul Connections
 
"How Could Anyone?"  is a very special song that can help us to heal the wounds caused by toxic people. Sometimes it can even help us to heal the relationship...

When we sing the song to ourselves it is a reminder that we are much more than our wounded child - we are a soul that has eternal life and experiences many lifetimes. This puts our present pain into a less overwhelming perspective. Some people would go even further and say that our soul has even planned for us to have certain "growth-stimulating" or "soul-awareness-awakening" experiences in our lifetime.

When we sing the song to a friend who has been wounded, it is a reminder to them of the deep connection between us. Knowing that we have at least one soul-mate sharing our life journey with us can restore our faith in life and in human relationships.

When we sing the song to someone who has hurt or drained us (now we're getting into really challenging stuff!) it is reminder that underneath their dysfunctionality they are a soul on a journey just like us. Their toxic dysfunctionality is building up a karmic debt i.e. consequences. The longer they get away with draining or hurting others, the more entrenched their behaviour will become and the more suffering they will endure when "pay-back" time arrives. This was, for example, the mindset that the Christian prophet Jesus had in mind when he said (of the toxic people who had betrayed and crucified him) "Lord, forgive them - for they know not what they do".

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